eHarmony Review

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Dating after you graduate from college can be tricky. You no longer have possible soul mates around you in class. Plus, you will spend most of your time working in your new career with people who the human resources department says you aren't supposed to date. So what are you supposed to do? Turn to online dating resources like eHarmony. Click to receive a FREE Personality Profile

The famous eHarmony TV commercial with Dr. Neil Clark Warren claims that you will be matched based on 29 dimensions of compatibility. Nobody knows what crazy algorithm they use to create matches, but they do require a great deal of information. Give the Gift of Love! eHarmony Gift Subscription

When you sign up for eHarmony you have to answer a questionnaire of what seems like a million questions. They ask you questions about your goals, interests, work life, family life, psychology, etc. The answers require you to rate yourself on a scale.  

You also create your own profile including a picture. You can opt not to upload a picture, but 99.9% of potential dates will want to see a picture of you at some point in the communication process. One great feature is that you can set the visibility of your picture. For example, you can allow all potential matches to see your picture right away or wait until open communication. Matching Based on Christian Principles

Once you have waded through all the questions and set up your profile you are ready to go. eHarmony has a search button. Every time I clicked on it I would get a message that they couldn't find any matches at that time. I believe this was because not many men had signed up for eHarmony in my area. (This was in 2004.) Or else my questionnaire determined that I was a complete freak!

With instant gratification down the toilet, I had to wait for eHarmony to send me matches. After only a few days, matches started trickling in. Then the real fun began.

When you get a match eHarmony sends you an email that gives you the name of the potential match and essentially introduces you to each other. You can view their profile. If you think the guy is a total flake or not your type then you can "close" the match. You can close a match at anytime during the process. When you close a match eHarmony has a list of reasons you can state as to why you closed communication. I'm still looking for the "It's not you, it's me" reason. Or you can use the reason of "Other" and leave the match wondering what the heck they did wrong.

Both parties have the option of beginning communication. In a nutshell the communication process is a set of multiple choice/open ended questions followed by likes/dislikes followed by open communication email through the eHarmony website. Up until this point your match never knows your last name, email, or phone number.

During the last stage of open communication you can set up a date, give them your real email address, and/or phone number. It's up to you.

I used eHarmony and I went on about 15 first dates. Thirteen of those first dates ended right there. So why did those first dates not lead to more? The major problem I found with eHarmony was that we matched "on paper," but when we met the chemistry was just not there.

Typically, my email inbox would ding with a lovely message that eHarmony had found another match for me to review and wanted to make an introduction. I would eagerly look at the potential guy's profile. If his profile totally blew me away then I would start the communication process. However, most of the time I waited for the guy to start communication.

We'd answer one another's multiple choice/open ended questions, likes/dislikes, and then send messages through "open communication." We'd exchange our real email addresses and send multiple messages. We'd find out that we had similar interests, sense of humor, and background.  You can read more about Free Dating Websites, Asian Online Dating Service, Online Dating Agency, Cupid Dating, Best Online Dating Service, Gay Online Dating Service, Lesbian Online Dating Services, Local Dating Services, Online Christian Dating Service, Singles Websites, Dating On Line on this website.

Then we'd be brave and set up a time to meet for lunch, dinner, or a drink after work. I would be excited and think that I could be on the next eHarmony commercial. Then I would meet the guy and quickly realize that my 15 minutes of fame was not going to happen anytime soon.

Unfortunately, usually the guy would be attracted to me and I didn't feel the same or vice versa. Once in awhile there would be no attraction on both parties. This was very frustrating because we seemed like soul mates if you looked at our life resumes. There would also be guys who must have lied on their questionnaire because they acted completely different than what their profile stated.  eHarmony Review

eHarmony wasn't a total loss though because the other 2 first dates resulted in a few more dates and a three-month relationship. eHarmony is worth a try, but don't expect it to give you a relationship like the one you see on their TV commercials unless you don't care about attraction. Plus, the 29-dimension questionnaire is not fool proof because some people lie on it or give answers of the person they wish to be and not the person that they really are. I recommend you give eHarmony Christian Dating a try and just maybe you will find that special someone. Matching Based on Christian Principles